JOY Advent week 3

JOY

Advent Week 3

Joy makes my head scramble. It is week 3 of advent, day 3 of focusing on joy. Joy seems so big and also daunting as questions circle; Am I joyful? Where do I see joy? How can I tell people to focus on joy in the midst of health issues/finals/ divorce/uncertainty/war/scandals/death/lies…STOP….Insert screeching halt sound here or maybe old school vinyl record pull back stop 😬. Let’s start at the very beginning, a very good place to start. (Yes, you may sing that line .)

We need a word study.

Definition.com

JOY

noun

the emotion of great delight or happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure; elation:

For me JOY would then be ocean waves, skis on snow, sunshine, puppy kisses, babies after bath time, girl friend laughter, spouse encouragement, warm homemade bread, lemons and my children smiling or enjoying anything, a good meal with my people, hope & peace.

These things are all good. Each are a gift from God. I feel good. I feel joyful after creating that list but in this life THIS joy is not enough, there is more. The joy that advent wants us to focus on goes deeper and eternal.

The Bible Project explains Biblical joy as “ an attitude God’s people adopts not because of our circumstances but because of our hope in God’s love and promise. “

The Bible teaches us of this joy in the wilderness. it is a joy with hope. God proves himself faithful over and over in our lives and in the stories of others. When we are in the wildness of the hard things in this life we must hold on to that hope and know that the story is not finished yet. God’s promises are true which means He will work all things for good for those that know and love Him. God is for us and not against us. His plan for us is good. God provides and is with us everywhere we go.

My favorite explanation of joy came in the form of a 5 min sermon by theologian John Piper. He explains joy as “a good feeling in the soul, produced by the Holy Spirit, as he causes us to see the beauty of Christ in the word and in the world.”

Now that we know what joy is, I can answer the question and my scrambling mind and settle.

Am I joyful? Yes but I do forget that it is a feeling but also a choice.

Where do I see joy? *see my list above AND in the Bible/Word of God because it gives me hope in the dark places of life. It gives testimony of those who have gone before me , trusted in God and He was faithful to them.

How can I tell people to focus on joy in the midst of …(insert your stresses here)? Because my life is proof that God is good and is faithful to those that know and love him. Because joy is a bundle of good feelings and also a choice. We must choose to live in hope and gratitude.

Interesting how gratitude just snuck in there. Gratitude and joy are besties! I read my Joy List again. The JOY in each of these things comes from the GRATITUDE I have. Oh, God is good!

So How do I get/keep/choose Joy? Stay grateful, make your joy list and repeat & add to those items, remember everything on your Joy list is a gift from God so that you may know Him, stay in prayer and the Word which is hope+peace= Joy

Joy & Peace to you & yours,

Ari.

Hey friends in the valley right now..

I have an Insiders tip when you’re in the dark valley—seek 1 thing to be joyful about each day, even if it is a tiny small thing and a 5 word prayer, “God I need you.Amen”. You’ll be amazed what it can do!

FAITH WEEK 2 Advent

In my 20’s I took ski lessons for a boy. He had a skiing family and after day 1 of everyone zooming by me, it was clear I would need lessons to keep up. I had skied before but there was something I was missing. I ended up loving lessons and went back again after my required 1 lesson. I liked it so much a younger brother suggested they needed to spy on the instructor 😉, but really I love learning. I loved going back and accepting the next challenge and learning I was strong enough for that skill. I could repeat it. My lessons went on for several years and yes, I did marry him, no not the instructor- my best friend/boyfriend. The lessons grew me, not just my ski level. I grew in confidence.

One lesson early on an instructor told me that I would know that I “made it” or was ready to tackle anything when I could see an upcoming lip and keep going. I’ll explain for the non-skiers. On the mountain there are many lips, dips and curves and many times at a lip you will see people stopped. They stop at the top of the lip to look down and assess the terrain. They are determining their line down the hill. They want to know what to expect and plan a route. The more confident skier you are, the less lips you need to stop at. Instead you go up and over and drop into the powder and tackle what comes. The runs are rated by difficulty so have an idea of what could be so it is a matter of your skill level and whether you trust your equipment. Have you been practicing? Have you kept your gear tuned up? If so, you just keep going.

I remember the day I first cruised by all the looky-loos up and over with out a pause. I was confident. I had done the work and my skis were good. I blindly went up and over with the confidence that I could tackle it.

Well friends, this is faith.

Have you done the heart & soul work to trust God and know that his plan for you is good? We do this by reading the Bible and learning the life of Jesus. Also by trusting God with decisions and seeing how He shows up and works in our lives.

Have you tuned and tested your equipment? We pray and see answers to prayer. We pray for others and see how it changes them. We show up to church, small group, Bible study and be the light for others. We keep doing the things that grow our faith. Use your tools so they stay sharp and not rust away—read, pray, praise, serve & gather.

Faith is keeping your mind and skills healthy & growing while keeping your tools in tune and ready. It is remembering that God has been faithful to you in the past and trusting He will be again.

You can not see what is over that lip but know you are not alone and God’s plan is good. Will you prep for it?

It is definitely worth it.

Advent Week 2, FAITH

HOPE Advent Week 1

HOPE⚓️ advent week 1

We have this hope as an anchor for our soul, firm and secure.

Hebrews 6:19

This is the first week of advent where we focus on hope. There is no hope outside of God. Jesus walked this earth to be our Hope. Hope changes everything.

Many asked me how I smiled and kept going & doing while I was walking, or crawling, through Stage IV Breast cancer. The answer, hope. I didn’t listen to the stats instead focusing on hope & healing.

I was scheduled for surgery the next day instead found myself meeting my oncologist and learning I’d be starting chemo first because cancer spread to my liver and ribs. What I thought was a quick surgery & done had just become complicated & bleak. My thoughts was spiraling down as my doc left the exam room. A few minutes later he poked his head back in the doorway and said he almost forgot to give me a message from my other doctor, the surgeon. “Dr Wit wanted you to know, We GOT this, kid!” My mind stopped swirling & a flood of relief came. It was the first of many assurance & I knew God was with me.

Just as I had wrapped up hearing some of the stats on metastastic cancer, I was given an ounce of hope and everything change.

I’ve learned whole lot of grit & grace and a speck of hope will get you to some amazing places.

⚓️ 2022

An Advent Practice to learn of the Hope I have—Read 1 Chapter of the book of Luke every day this month

Good Friday

Good Friday

Today we mourn the crucifixion of Christ on the cross. If you are like me, you don’t want to sit in the pain of this history. I’d prefer to skip to Sunday, the celebration. I want the joy, the hope, the promise that the resurrection of Christ brings us all. I want the family time, the sharing and caring, the dinner, the chocolate. I want the celebration!

But, with out Friday there is no Sunday.

With out Friday, there is no resurrection, no atonement for our sins, no forgiveness, nor eternity with our Heavenly Father. So, in order to feel

the fullness of the celebration we must understand the fullness of the cost. Jesus death was for you. You are worthy and a high price was paid so you may live in peace and joy, a life of freedom if you accept it.

Do not be tempted to gloss over today. Take some time to sit in the pain and cost of the crucifixion. Read Mark 15- Think about the suffering that Jesus went through for all of us. He paid the price so we don’t have to. All our sin and shame, all the ugly we do is forgiven because of Jesus’ death, ALL BECAUSE GOD LOVES YOU.

So, read Mark 15 with an open mind, soul and heart. Pray. Cry. Be grateful because SUNDAY is coming! Peace to you & yours, A.

• other suggestions for today: Watch the movie, The Passion of Christ or The Bible Series. Also, I love the Bible Project, below is a link to their short video, Sacrifice & Atonement.

Romans 8:28

I AM ASSURED ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” {Romans 8:28}

We have a God of hope. When I make a mess of things, when my world is crumbling, when I feel lost I turn to the promises of my Heavenly Father. I tell the inner voice to silence and stop whispering the lies of defeat. Instead I choose truth. I choose God’s word. I rise up, sometimes slowly, but I rise and focus on God. Friend, if you are feeling despair or in a situation that seems hopeless know this, our God works ALL things for good for those who love Him. We have a God who can do all things

and even if you cannot imagine it, this situation will be worked for good. God has a plan for you, a good plan. Keep leaning into God and remembering his promises.

Jeremiah 29:11; Matthew 11:28-29; Isaiah 40:29-31; Romans 8:37-39

Written for The Loved Bible Project

2016

Identity in Christ

Koa (2016)

Speaking Truth in love. Grace. Love. These are the last few seasons I have been in. God takes our rough edges and polishes them until they are smooth. We must be refined.

I went to Hawaii for my honeymoon and was drawn to the artisans. Something about the culture grabbed me and my mind longed for the slower pace. We spent hours strolling and chatting with local artists. It was good for the soul. It was good for MY soul. I escaped into the stories of each piece of art and secretly longed to be the creator. The variety of mediums was intriguing but my man and I were drawn over and over to the simplest of forms, wood, specifically Koa wood. We saw furniture, frames, bowls, instruments, paddles and even jewelry made from this silky wood. Koa is a hard, strong wood but when carved and polished appears as if it were made of satin ribbons. A finished Koa piece is so smooth it almost is soft.

Near the end of our adventure and after viewing and touching what seemed like hundreds of Koa items, we decided a Koa cutting board would be welcomed into our home. It seemed practical yet beautiful and with in the budget. (I really wanted a canoe paddle, but that is why I was blessed with a sensible husband—one paddle, no water, no boat, small suitcase…his list went on.)

Seventeen years later this cutting board still hangs in my kitchen. Let me clarify hang, hang meaning it hangs out, getting shuffled here and there. It is not allowed to be used. It is be to admired. At one point it hung on the wall and another time it rested behind the cooktop. It has collected dust and even a burn mark but the color, feel and memory never fade.

Koa means warrior.

The interesting thing about Koa wood is that it doesn’t need a lot of finishing. How can a warrior need minimal finishing?

Funny thing, that last question was meant to be a place marker. I had been writing and came to complete stand still stuck on that question. (Since my writings are typically short, I sit down and write until the thought or story is finished, so this was not how I operate.) When I closed my computer last Friday my husband inquired how it was going, we smiled sharing the memory and I explained how I was confused. He assured me I would figure it out.

I have been pondering this question for 5 days now. It has had me stumped. I began to wonder if this lesson was not a lesson for me and just a lovely memory.

How can a warrior need minimal finishing?

And then the connection came. Dishes will have to wait. I need to write. 

God knows that I take time to process things. Apparently, I needed to do some heart work and forgiveness in this season before I could make sense of this.

How can a warrior need minimal finishing?

Warriors are strong and require little finishing or refinement because

The strongest of WARRIORS ARE BORN.

A warrior can not be created in refinement instead it is who they are. The flowering Koa tree, Acacia Koa, is strong and beautiful inside and out. God created it this way. The other interesting fact about the Koa is that it is the second most common tree in Hawaii. It is not unique in it’s area. It is surrounded by other warrior trees.

In each season, I am challenged and tested. I prefer to be called a hands on learner as opposed to trial and error and error and error learner so I must be challenged to truly learn. Each time, the challenge hurts and I swear, sometimes literally- don’t hate me, that I am going to quit, that I am done. This is usually followed by me putting myself to bed early which everyone is thankful for. I must admit, this technique does not always work well. The sleep is restless and I loose control of my thoughts. Finally, I cry out to God for help. Help me see. Help me learn. Help me know. Help me understand. I open my Bible, pray lots and call someone wiser than me.
Clarity and peace finally appear. I breathe deep because I know I’ve made it to the other side. I did not quit, almost did but didn’t quit. Peace comes when you do not quit. Warriors do not quit. You have to make it through the challenge to get the reward. A friend recently taught me that blessings and burden go hand in hand, like pregnancy and babies— burden and blessings. The challenge is the burden. The peace and joy are the blessing.

I am strong. I am brave. I am a warrior.

Each challenge refines me. The grind of the sandpaper is uncomfortable for everyone. I cringe at the thought of the grit. It is hard on the sander and hard on the sanded but it must be done. If we leave the product unfinished, splinters will incur. If we leave it unfinished, it will still be strong and beautiful to those who recognize strength and quality but if we finish it, if we refine it, there is no denying it’s beauty and strength. It reflects light and depth.

Koa means brave, bold, fearless or warrior.

I am these things. I learn it in each new season. I know I am not alone. Warriors are surrounded by warriors. You are a warrior friend. You were made strong. You are beautiful inside and out. Join me in these seasons of refining so we can be equipped and shine better than ever. Fight with me fellow warriors.

Fight for your marriages. Fight for your children. Fight for your friends. Fight for your peace. Fight for your health. Fight for your faith. Fight for your joy. Fight for the least of these. Fight for the love of God to reach everyone you know.

Grace and Peace.

“God-of-the-Angel-Armies will step in and take care of his flock, the people of Judah. He’ll revive their spirits, make them proud to be on God’s side. God will use them in his work of rebuilding, use them as foundations and pillars, Use them as tools and instruments, use them to oversee his work. They’ll be a workforce to be proud of, working as one, their heads held high, striding through swamps and mud, Courageous and vigorous because God is with them, undeterred by the world’s thugs. I’ll put muscle in the people of Judah; I’ll save the people of Joseph. I know their pain and will make them good as new. They’ll get a fresh start, as if nothing had ever happened. And why? Because I am their very own God, I’ll do what needs to be done for them. The people of Ephraim will befamous, their lives brimming with joy. Their children will get in on it, too – oh, let them feel blessed by God! I’ll whistle and they’ll all come running. I’ve set them free – oh, how they’ll flourish! Even though I scattered them to the far corners of earth, they’ll remember me in the faraway places. They’ll keep the story alive in their children, and they will come back. I’ll bring them back from the Egyptian west and round them up from the Assyrian east. I’ll bring them back to sweet Gilead, back to leafy Lebanon. Every square foot of land will be marked by homecoming. They’ll sail through troubled seas, brush aside brash ocean waves. Roaring rivers will turn to a trickle. Gaudy Assyria will be stripped bare, bully Egypt exposed as a fraud. But my people – oh, I’ll make them strong, God-strong! and they’ll live my way.” God says so.”
-Zechariah 10:3-12 (The Message)

2016